Entries by Michelle Zunter

‘I Don’t Have A Stepmom’

My daughter and I were cuddled up on the couch watching something together. Somehow, the subject of her brother came up and how I was his stepmom. No big deal. But then she turned to me and said, ‘Well, you are his stepmom. But I don’t get to have a stepmom.’ I had never imagined […]

4 Traits of Highly Effective Stepmoms

1. Self-Awareness It’s healthy for every person and parent out there to have developed a generous sense of self-awareness, but for a stepmom, it can be particularly useful. No matter what your situation as a stepmom is, whether it’s a full-time, part-time, weekend, or even seasonal stepmom, if you don’t go into this role with […]

Six Life Lessons I’ve Learned Being a Stepmom

Along my step-parenting journey, I have learned some intense lessons that have become my tested tools for life. Some of these tools were already in my repertoire, but since I became a stepmom they have been completely transformed into the life lessons I will carry with me forever. I have written this from the viewpoint […]

Three Tips for Stepmoms to Recover From Terrible Days

We all have terrible, no good, and downright atrocious days as human beings. As a wife, mother, and stepmother I have plenty of those days myself. The difference for stepmoms is that, quite often, there are not many people around us who can relate to our feelings or who have experience with what it’s like […]

What My Worst Moments As A Stepmom Have Taught Me

There’s a lot I still don’t know about being a completely healthy, well-adjusted stepmom. There’s a lot I’m still figuring out. It’s definitely a complicated balancing act of epic proportions. But there are things I’ve been continually learning that I can pass on to other stepmoms. There are experiences we all go through that bind […]

I’m Not A Perfect Stepmom

No stepmom likes to think of herself as bitter, angry, or resentful. No stepmom likes the idea of other people seeing her in that light either. A lot of people have referred to me as, “the best stepmom in the world,” or, “the perfect stepmom.” Maybe I am all of those things in my best […]

How Becoming A Stepmom Made Me Love Myself More

When I first came on the scene in the beginning stages of dating my now-husband, I had very little concept as to how dating a single father and becoming a stepmom would ultimately change my life. The biological mother of my now-stepson didn’t even acknowledge my presence the first time we were in the same […]

To All The Stepmoms in The Trenches

For the determined stepmom who is in the trenches, I feel you. For the new stepmom who cried this morning, I’ve been there. For the seasoned stepmom who still battles resentment, I’m with you. This road can feel long. It can be treacherous, and it can be confusing. Knowing which path to take at any given time can feel […]