Stepmoms: Quit Comparing Yourself to Your Partner’s Ex!

I’ve ALWAYS obsessed with comparing myself to my husband’s ex and now I’m making it public. I fixated on her looks, parenting skills, her previous and current relationship with my husband, her hatred for me. The list goes on and on. This…

Why Its Normal To Resent Your Stepchildren

Find me a person who has ever grown up thinking of or picturing their life as a stepparent, and I’ll show you a liar. Stepfamilies, as beautiful as they are, do not represent something we dream about as children or draw on our vision boards.…
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10 Tips To Make Your Relationship A Priority

If I asked you whether your relationship is your top priority, what would you say? If you said yes . . . did you mean it? When was the last time you and your spouse had some alone time and talked about your feelings? Really connected.…
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The Ugly Truth About The Ex

When I came in to this stepmum gig, I thought I was pretty well prepared. I was a stepchild myself, had successfully navigated the relationship with my kids then stepmum…how hard could it be? Harder than I could ever have imagined. Like…

5 Harmful Habits Stepmoms Need To Break

As stepmoms, we spend so much time supporting one another in an “us against the world” mentality, which is awesome and important and so valid. But with that mentality, we often don't want to see that we ourselves might have developed some…
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I Do, With Them Too? 3 Tips for the New Stepmom

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I will never forget the moment in my wedding when I said, “I do!” Standing at the altar, friends and family all around on a perfect April day. Everything went off without a hitch, and we had finally come to the moment of making the promise…
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How Limiting Beliefs Complicate the Stepfamily Dynamic & What to Do to Change Them

About Limiting Beliefs When I was young, I was often told to “stop whining”, “stop crying” or “be quiet, you are making too much noise.” I was supposed to be seen, but not heard. I wasn’t allowed to express myself, so…

Food Cultures and Step-Families

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Being a stepparent is a journey. When I started on my stepmom journey, I was struggling. All kinds of things were an issue for me: loss of privacy, noise, dealing with the kid’s mom – this all on top of moving, a new job, and a new marriage.…
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Parallel Parenting: The Case For Another Way

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Haven’t heard of parallel parenting? Don’t worry, you’re not alone. After a divorce or split, former partners often assume coparenting together is their only option. And they’re stumped about how to handle it when things go sideways. What…
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What is the Role of a Stepparent? Redefining Parenting — One Step At A Time

Stepparents have been around for a long time. They’ve stepped in, stepped up, and they have patiently allowed themselves to be painted into the background on many occasions. There are stories of wicked stepmothers both in real life and…
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Why Your Husband Says “Yes” to His Ex

Do you hate it when your husband’s difficult ex asks for something and your husband jumps on the yes wagon? Or, even worse, when she wants something seemingly unreasonable – and even though you can tell from a mile away that he’ll regret…
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Journey to a Happy Heart

I once asked the question on social media what words people associate with stepfamily, stepmom and step kids. It is incredible to me the number of negative word associations with these phrases. Words came up like the other, difficult, adjustment,…
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‘I Don’t Have A Stepmom’

My daughter and I were cuddled up on the couch watching something together. Somehow, the subject of her brother came up and how I was his stepmom. No big deal. But then she turned to me and said, ‘Well, you are his stepmom. But I don’t…
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Tips for Getting Your Stepchild’s Mother Out of Your Head

(Kicking the High-Conflict Habit) It’s a cycle we’re desperate to break. We’re angry, so we ruminate, which makes us angrier, and so we ruminate some more. The anger and the insecurity means something to us – it’s evidence to us…
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4 Traits of Highly Effective Stepmoms

1. Self-Awareness It’s healthy for every person and parent out there to have developed a generous sense of self-awareness, but for a stepmom, it can be particularly useful. No matter what your situation as a stepmom is, whether it’s…