Mother and Adult Daughter

All Mothers Matter

I recently watched my grandmother die. She was nearly 93, at the end of a long and storied life, and she had no pain. My mother and I were with her, alone together in the room as she left us. In offering condolences, the hospice workers commented…
Teenagers

Building Teenage Confidence Isn’t One Giant Leap

The teenage years are well known as a time of self-doubt and low confidence. This can happen for a number of reasons, but you’ll be pleased to know that there are lots of things you can do to help your step-teenager counteract such feelings. During…
Sad Teenager

Helping Your Step-Teenager Deal with the ‘Big Issues’

The ‘big issues’ facing today’s teenagers may not immediately be obvious. Drugs, alcohol, sex, and relationships have traditionally been the things parents worry about, but also high on the list of today’s problems facing teenagers…
Boy Sitting Exam

Helping your Step-Teenager through the Exam Season

Exam season can be a very stressful time, not just for the teenager sitting the exams, but also for the whole family. Such immense pressure, if left unmanaged, can cause a loss of focus, increasing anxiety, panic attacks, and depression.…
Parent Disciplining Child

Disciplining Stepchildren: 5 Tips for Parents

Whenever I coach stepfamilies – either parents, their children or the family as a whole – there’s one issue that almost always crops up: discipline. How do stepparents avoid being seen as the nasty interloper with ridiculous new rules,…
Stepmum with Stepchildren

How to Be a Good Role Model to Your Stepchildren

There are elements of parenting that stepparents can overlook, perhaps because they feel that they don’t apply to them, and one of these is being a role model. In fact, considering yourself as a role model can be very helpful in creating…
Girl Looking in a Mirror

Coping with Narcissistic Stepchildren

It’s surprising how many stepparents find themselves faced with the challenge of stepchildren who exhibit narcissistic personality traits. Or perhaps - when you consider how narcissism develops – it isn’t surprising at all. The Narcissist:…
Stepmum and Stepdaugther Spending Time Together

Precious Moments: Valuing Alone Time with the Children

When looking back on some of my favorite childhood memories, I think of the King of Prussia Mall. I remember the shop ‘til ya drop days spent with my mom. I never wanted those days to end. Spending time alone with my mom was special because…
Stepmum and Stepson

It’s Not You, It’s Me

Wow! Ever feel like your stepchild doesn’t like you? This can be a constant feeling. A feeling that creeps up then leaves as quick as it came. Or if you are lucky, something you hardly, if ever, have to deal with. Me, I’m in the middle.…
Woman Thinking Positively

Positive Thoughts, Positive Actions, Positive Results

Do you ever have times in your life where you just feel like everything is going wrong like you're on an insane roller coaster that keeps your world upside down? Recently, I have been feeling that way, and let me tell you…I need to get…
Stepfamily

Making the Most Out of Mother’s Day

Oooooh, it’s that time of year again where many stepmoms are looking inward to figure out their place in the home. For some, this day can be a day where they are pampered with gifts and with love. While other stepmoms feel rejected and doubt…
Pensive Stepmum

Why I Miss the Stepmom

If someone told me several years ago that I would be missing my children's stepmom I would have told them they are freaken crazy. No way in the world could I ever miss that lady. The struggles, arguments, and disagreements were enough to make…
Family Laughing

Stepchildren Just Want to Fit In – Part 3

As a stepdad, I found some ways to help my stepchildren feel like they fit into our blended family. Being a stepdad to 3 great kids motivated me to show them that they belong in our family, that I believe in them, and that I want to see…
Family Laughing

Stepchildren Just Want to Fit In – Part 2

As a stepdad, I found some ways to help my stepchildren feel like they fit into our blended family. It was my goal to have my stepchildren feel that they belong to our family, that I believe in them, and that I want to see them become the…
Family Laughing

Stepchildren Just Want to Fit In – Part 1

As a stepdad, I found some ways to help my step kids feel like they fit into our blended family. Becoming a stepdad when my step kids were 8, 10 and 12, made my life way more chaotic than I had ever experienced and at the same time more…