Pensive Stepmum

The Stepmom Who Wanted to Leave…But Stayed

When I married my husband I anticipated a wonderful marriage full of love and devotion but what I didn’t expect was feeling like I had made the biggest mistake of my life. I left my perfectly happy single life and never anticipated the heaviness…

The Guilty Stepmom

Being a stepmom is the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. I find myself dealing with a high-conflict ex-wife and dysfunctional situations on a constant basis. What happened to my once care-free life? It is now burdened with complications,…
Stepmum Friends

Stepmoms Are Not Most Women

My husband and I just celebrated our wedding anniversary.  Our marriage has been challenging due to his ex and her instabilities, which inevitably trickle down to us. Nevertheless, each year we like to reflect on the past year…
Stepmum Relaxing

Why Stepparents Need a Kid-Free Zone in Their Home

Let’s face it, even in the best of circumstances, kids are not easy to be around 100 percent of the time. Even biological parents need a break from their children once in a while, so it’s normal (although not quite acceptable by society)…
Woman walking on a road

Six Life Lessons I’ve Learned Being a Stepmom

Along my step-parenting journey, I have learned some intense lessons that have become my tested tools for life. Some of these tools were already in my repertoire, but since I became a stepmom they have been completely transformed into the…
Woman Thinking

Five Essential Questions to Ask Yourself Before Becoming a Stepmom

The decision to be part of someone’s life on a long-term basis is a monumental one. If the person you love has children from a previous relationship or marriage, then making sure this decision is the right one for you and everyone…
Sad Stepmum

Three Tips for Stepmoms to Recover From Terrible Days

We all have terrible, no good, and downright atrocious days as human beings. As a wife, mother, and stepmother I have plenty of those days myself. The difference for stepmoms is that, quite often, there are not many people around us who…
Pensive Stepmom

What My Worst Moments As A Stepmom Have Taught Me

There's a lot I still don't know about being a completely healthy, well-adjusted stepmom. There's a lot I'm still figuring out. It's definitely a complicated balancing act of epic proportions. But there are things I've been continually learning…
Stepmum Inner Strength Concept

I’m Not A Perfect Stepmom

No stepmom likes to think of herself as bitter, angry, or resentful. No stepmom likes the idea of other people seeing her in that light either. A lot of people have referred to me as, "the best stepmom in the world," or, "the perfect stepmom."…
Happy Woman

How Becoming A Stepmom Made Me Love Myself More

When I first came on the scene in the beginning stages of dating my now-husband, I had very little concept as to how dating a single father and becoming a stepmom would ultimately change my life. The biological mother of my now-stepson didn’t…
Stepmum Feeling Sad

To All The Stepmoms in The Trenches

For the determined stepmom who is in the trenches, I feel you. For the new stepmom who cried this morning, I’ve been there. For the seasoned stepmom who still battles resentment, I’m with you. This road can feel…
Stepmum Stressed

Stepmom Stress and Self-Care

Stress. Everyone has it. Even children today are speaking out about being stressed. Some have it for different reasons, but we all suffer from it in one form or another. Call it a symptom of our current instant-gratification-technologically-driven…
Woman Goddess

You Are a Goddess, Now Stop Comparing Yourself

How are you showing up in your life? This question could cause some anxiety, I understand. It’s a big one, especially for a stepmom. Are you seeking guidance or approval from others to fit into the blended family? Trying to do it the “right”…
Woman Embracing Herself

You Matter

You matter. Yes. YOU. Really take in what I’m saying. You. Matter. Now take a deep inhale and feel that in your body. I know that there are days when you feel like no one sees you or appreciates you. Those are the days when it is vitally…
Pensive Stepmum

Living in the Shadow

You are going to have good days and you are going to have bad days. It’s part of being human. In your stepfamily, you may feel more of the extremes than anywhere else in your life. Some days you will feel like you are the queen of the…