137: The “Ours Baby” in a Blended Family: What No One Tells You | Amanda Gonzales, LCMHC & Morgan Lindahl
Having an “ours baby” in a blended family can bring so much joy, but it can also create emotions no one really prepares you for.
In this episode of The Stepmom Diaries, Cameron talks with Morgan Lindahl and Amanda Gonzales about what changes when a couple has an ours baby after one or both partners already have children from a previous relationship. They share what surprised them most about becoming moms and stepmoms under the same roof, including the identity shifts, guilt, sibling dynamics, and emotional transitions that can come with blended family life.
One of the biggest challenges they discuss is what happens when the ours baby stays behind while their siblings leave for the other parent’s home.
Morgan shares the heartbreak of watching her daughter struggle with those goodbyes, while Amanda explains why these repeated transitions can create such big emotions for young children. Their experiences led them to create For the Kids Who Stay, a resource focused on children in blended families whose siblings move between two homes.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How having an ours baby can change your identity as a mom and stepmom
- Why sibling transitions can be so emotional for the child who stays behind
- How to create more security and connection in an unpredictable blended family schedule
- Why intention and self compassion matter in stepfamily life
Morgan and Amanda also share the story behind their book, How Many More Days?!, created to help children process the goodbyes, waiting, and reunions that come with having siblings who move between homes. You can learn more and pre-order a copy of the book, How Many More Days?! (& get their 25 Transition Day Rituals download for FREE). Simply add both products to your cart and use the code STEPMOMDIARIES at checkout.
They will also be joining Cameron at The Stepmom Summit to talk more about ours babies, sibling relationships, and blended family dynamics. Grab your FREE ticket today!
If you have an “ours baby” in your blended family, are thinking about having one, or are navigating sibling relationships across households, this episode is one you will want to hear.
Resources Mentioned
Follow them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/forthekidswho.stay/
The Stepmom Summit: Out Loud Sept. 14-18, 2026.
Morgan and Amanda will be joining Cameron at The Stepmom Summit to continue the conversation about ours babies and blended family dynamics. Get your FREE ticket HERE: https://www.thestepmomsummit.com
Get our free Stepmom Scripts Guide with real-life scripts for common stepfamily conversations: https://stepfamilycertification.com/stepmom-scripts
