Tag Archive for: communication

131: Eve Rodsky on the Mental Load in Blended Families
Podcast Are you the one tracking the dentist appointments, school forms, birthday gifts, custody schedules, groceries, and all the tiny details no one else seems to notice? That invisible work has a name: the mental load. In this episode…

130: The Comments Every Stepmom Hates and Exactly How to Respond
Podcast We've all been there. Someone makes a comment about being a stepmom that they probably mean well... but it still stings. "You knew what you were getting into." "At least you get a break." "They're not really your kids." In…
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The Ugly Truth About The Ex
Relationships When I came in to this stepmum gig, I thought I was pretty well prepared. I was a stepchild myself, had successfully navigated the relationship with my kids then stepmum…how hard could it be? Harder than I could ever have imagined. Like…
Why Your Husband Says “Yes” to His Ex
Relationships Do you hate it when your husband’s difficult ex asks for something and your husband jumps on the yes wagon? Or, even worse, when she wants something seemingly unreasonable – and even though you can tell from a mile away that he’ll regret…

Why Stepmums Get Jealous & Insecure in the Most Stable Relationships
RelationshipsYou’re not weak or silly for feeling unsettled in your relationship when your partner’s past is so present in your home and family. It’s not weird to feel grossed out by anything that suggests previous intimacy. It’s not wrong to feel sad that our first experience of having a child with our partner is not their first experience.

4 Simple Questions To Help Kids Change Their Behaviour
Parenting & Child DevelopmentIf we notice positive behaviour and comment on it, the positive behaviour will be repeated as long as we keep commenting on it and rewarding the child with positive attention. If we consistently comment on negative behaviour, we are inadvertently rewarding the child with attention. They will repeat this behaviour as long as we keep giving them attention for it.

How to Show Your Kids It’s Okay to Be Queer
Parenting & Child DevelopmentSo many of us instill the “straight” mentality, or heteronormativity rather, in little everyday moments that we don’t even realize we’re establishing norms and expectations that make our kids assume they’re straight, cis kids living in a straight, cis world, and that everything else is different. There are a few ways you, as parents, can incorporate an inclusion state of mind into your kids’ everyday life, regardless of whether or not anyone in your family is queer. The biggest piece of advice I can give other parents who want to make an effort to normalize queerness is to try not never assume heterosexuality.

How to Plan a Same Sex Bridal Shower
RelationshipsYou’re throwing a part for two people you love very much. Forget about the dos and don’ts that are all over Pinterest and such. Use your instincts, because you were asked to throw a shower to celebrate the love of two people who know and trust what you’ll do for them. Keep it true to the spirit of the couple, and you really

A Stepmom’s Guide to Being a Supportive Partner
Relationships It is easy to be a loving, supportive and kind partner when you are comfortable with how things are going. It’s easy to feel safe and secure when your partner is making parenting decisions that are in alignment with your values.…

Tips for the Introverted Stepparent
Self-Care There are many stepparents struggling to fit in and find peace in their families, not because they don’t get along with their stepchildren, but because they’re introverts in a family of extroverts. And introverts and extroverts often…

How to Communicate with Mom: Crafting Your Stepmom Philosophy
Relationships My best friend is my stepdaughter’s mom. Yep, you read that right. What’s the question that follows that confession every single time? “How in the world did you get to that point?!” My biggest recommendation for helping other…

The Metaphor That Changed My Entire Perspective on the Stepmom Role
Self-Care, Uncategorized I was in a really bad place. The slightest mention of the family he had before me sent me into turmoil and agony. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t come first. Why I couldn’t be his only. I loved his daughter, and logically, I understood…

Lessons Learned When I Embraced My Role as Second Wife
Self-Care Coming into my role as a second wife to the love of my life was no easy feat. It’s as if everywhere I turned there was another reminder of his former life, of the woman he loved before me. It was inescapable, perpetual torture. I wanted…

Things I Wish My Stepchild’s Mom Knew
Relationships I am often discredited as a stepmom blogger because my relationship with K’s mom is so great. I take very little credit for our positive relationship; that was all Amanda, K’s biological mother. She has chosen to invite me into her daughter’s…

