Tag Archive for: insecurity

Stepmoms: Quit Comparing Yourself to Your Partner’s Ex!

I’ve ALWAYS obsessed with comparing myself to my husband’s ex and now I’m making it public. I fixated on her looks, parenting skills, her previous and current relationship with my husband, her hatred for me. The list goes on and on. This…
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Tips for Getting Your Stepchild’s Mother Out of Your Head

(Kicking the High-Conflict Habit) It’s a cycle we’re desperate to break. We’re angry, so we ruminate, which makes us angrier, and so we ruminate some more. The anger and the insecurity means something to us – it’s evidence to us…

Why Stepmums Get Jealous & Insecure in the Most Stable Relationships

You’re not weak or silly for feeling unsettled in your relationship when your partner’s past is so present in your home and family. It’s not weird to feel grossed out by anything that suggests previous intimacy. It’s not wrong to feel sad that our first experience of having a child with our partner is not their first experience.
Two Women Who Do Not Like Each Other

11 Reasons Why Your Husband’s Ex-Wife Hates You

Jenna Korf provides 11 reasons why your spouse's ex-wife may not think too fondly of you.
Young Girl

Why I Don’t Want My Daughter to Grow Up to Be a Stepmom

I love my family. My husband is thoughtful, helpful, and has the patience of a saint. My stepdaughter is full of joy, silly jokes, and cure-all hugs. My in-laws are kind, accepting, and understanding. But despite all of the love and happiness,…
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What I Learned from Being Roommates with My Stepdaughter’s Mom

My stepdaughter’s mom, stepdad, and baby sister recently moved out after living with my husband and me for three months. Yep, you read that right. My husband’s ex-wife and I lived under the same roof for a quarter of a year. I had to…
Couple Talking

15 Things Stepmom Wishes Her Husband Knew

In that moment, I knew I couldn’t say anything to make him understand. I could verbalize my emotions until I was blue in the face, but he just wasn’t going to make sense of my words. Exhausting myself trying to explain why I was struggling…
Girl Looking in a Mirror

Coping with Narcissistic Stepchildren

It’s surprising how many stepparents find themselves faced with the challenge of stepchildren who exhibit narcissistic personality traits. Or perhaps - when you consider how narcissism develops – it isn’t surprising at all. The Narcissist:…
Stepmum and Stepson

It’s Not You, It’s Me

Wow! Ever feel like your stepchild doesn’t like you? This can be a constant feeling. A feeling that creeps up then leaves as quick as it came. Or if you are lucky, something you hardly, if ever, have to deal with. Me, I’m in the middle.…